Life On Auto Pilot... Sometimes You Need To Consciously Change Direction

For a long time in my life, I was very good at coping. Well I thought I was.

I could think my way through problems.

Stay busy. Keep moving forward.

On the surface, it looked like I was handling life well. But underneath, certain patterns were repeating: stress, pressure, old emotional reactions, feeling like I had to hold everything together.

What I’ve learned through my own journey in recent years, and through Belief Coding is this:

My "system" was being loyal to what it learned early on. Familiarity felt safe. Even if it was perhaps not what was needed.

At some point, my body and subconscious decided how to stay safe, how to stay in control, how to cope. Those patterns helped me once upon a time, but if I am honest I was on auto pilot.

And the route didn’t automatically update when I decided to change my life.

I needed to do something different to reprogram the course I was choosing to take.

For me, real change didn’t come from trying harder. It came from recognising I needed to take a step back, and do less.

Creating safety in a variety of ways.

Sometimes that looks can be as basic as what I refer to as "dove hands"

Interlock your thumbs with your palms facing inwards, and put them on the heart and chest,

feeling the warmth, and slowing to a deeper, more calming breath pattern.

• Breath In deep through the nose for 4

• Hold at the top for 4

• Out through the mouth for 8

Repeat, and again, and again, and again...

This lets my body feel that it can soften.

I’ve also had to be honest about how much stimulation I was living in.

For years, I burned the candle at both ends. Late nights, alcohol, coffee, red bull, screens on right up until it was time to try and get some sleep.

A mind that never really switched off.

Consciously reducing or eliminating some of these elements has been huge for me.

Screens off earlier.

Letting my nervous system wind down.

Listening to a meditation or calming tones instead of more information.

Getting into a more regular sleep and wake pattern.

Getting at least 7 or 8 hours sleep.

None of this is dramatic. But it’s been deeply changing.

Breathwork and Belief Coding have supported for me, not just changing beliefs in my head, but helping my whole system learn that life can be safer, steadier, and less of a constant push.

Not perfect. But softer.

More grounded. And finally giving real change somewhere to land.

If you have spent large chunks of your life on high alert and are looking for change I invite you to try some of this.

If you fancy a natter, reach out. x